7 things I'm currently unlearning

A couple of weeks ago, I decided to shut down my shop. It was my primary source of income and something that, at one time, brought me so much joy.

After a tough year filled with health scares, postpartum depression + anxiety, and adapting to twin motherhood, It didn’t take long enough for me to realize that I was functioning from a place of desperation and pressure rather than joy and purpose.

You can read more on that in this article: Living a Life with Open Hands

As I sit on a rocker and watch my boys run around in diapers while seeing my parents amazed at our tiny miracles, I feel even more reassured of my decision.

As I sit on the rocker and relearn to rest and put my guard down,
I reflect and release the beliefs that held me captive.

Here are seven things that I’m currently unlearning while on sabbatical.

1. I am unlearning that my value is found only in hardships and sharing my trauma.
   Trauma doesn’t have to be the main character in my life. It doesn’t have to control every aspect of my life. While I can’t change the trauma that happened to me, I can still heal, grow, and create the life I’ve dreamed of.
   

2. I am unlearning that success means sacrificing my needs to please others.

   You don’t have to run yourself dry for the sake of success. Success doesn’t mean pleasing others a the expense of your well-being. Remember to have something in your cup before pouring it into others.
   

3. I am unlearning that keeping the peace means being silent about my feelings
   or things that matter to me.
   Peace is not achieved by sweeping things under the rug or avoiding hard conversations. We often ignore or avoid something, leading to resentment and unresolved conflict. Remember that before you can keep the peace, you’ve got to be willing to cultivate it within.