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Trigger Warning: This post mentions miscarriage and loss
In October 2020, amidst a world in turmoil, I found myself sobbing in the bathroom, grappling with my second miscarriage.
This loss carried a weight unlike the first,
plunging me into deeper depths of sorrow that I was reluctant to navigate.
I wanted to rush towards healing and get grief out the way.
I erased sonograms and mementos that threatened to resurface the pain.
“Fina, Dale tiempo al tiempo”
Fina give time, time.
My mother's soothing voice echoed through the phone as tears streamed down my face and loud sobs left my lips.
Her words gently granted me the permission I needed to slow down, to embark on the journey of healing at my own pace, seeking solace and rediscovering my footing.
Sometimes life throws us for a loop.
Sometimes things don’t go as planned.
Sometimes grief and loss make their way into our life
as unwelcome teachers of resilience.
In the midst of hardship, we sometimes struggle to see the light at the end of the tunnel. As we struggle to see the light, one may want to force and rush the process for some comfort.
In this chapter of my life, as I confront some old wounds and childhood trauma resurfaced by recent events, I am learning to lean into discomfort with gentleness.
I am learning that there is no race through pain, no obligation to suppress grief, no need to evade the inevitable discomfort.
I can take up space.
I can ask for support.
I can heal at my own pace.
I am immersing myself with truth. equipping myself with grace.
and showing up with courage, knowing that
the journey I am on is far greater than the season I am walking through.
Grief knows no bounds of time or speed; it does not adhere to a predetermined timeline nor a fixed endpoint. You have the freedom to navigate your pain at your own rhythm, to shed the facades and allow healing to unfold naturally.
Take your time healing.
Take your time resting.
Take your time feeling.
Take your time healing.
Take your time resting.
Take your time feeling.
Amidst the urge to rush past hardships and leap towards the next chapter, may we pause to appreciate the beauty found in the present moment, in the deliberate act of pacing ourselves through life's trials.
Today, may you find solace in the art of savoring the journey, embracing the slow and steady progression towards growth and renewal.
May this day remind you of the profound beauty that emanates from granting yourself grace and patience, a testament to the resilience found in embracing the process,
one step, one day, one moment at a time.
May today be the day that you give time, time.
3 Affirmations to take with you this Week
1. I honor my journey of healing, allowing myself the time and space to navigate grief with patience and self-compassion.
2. I embrace the beauty in pacing myself through life's challenges, recognizing that healing is a personal and transformative process.
3. I give myself permission to lean into discomfort, seeking support and solace as I navigate the depths of sorrow with gentleness and grace.
May these affirmations meet you exactly where you are today.
May they serve as a reminder to be gentle in your healing.
mindful minute: a time to reflect and respond
Let’s take a moment to breathe deep and exhale together.
Inhale through the nose for five seconds, hold your breath for seven seconds
and exhale for eight seconds.
Listen: An encouraging tune
Francheska - Created For This
Reflect: Journal Prompts (Feel free to share in Comments)
- Write a Letter of Grace, Compassion, and Gentleness to yourself
- Explore the concept of granting yourself time and space for healing.
In what ways do you tend to rush through pain or grief, and how can you practice patience and self-compassion in those moments?
Remember:
Grief knows no bounds of time or speed; it does not adhere to a predetermined timeline nor a fixed endpoint. You have the freedom to navigate your pain at your own rhythm, to shed the facades and allow healing to unfold naturally.
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